Shining Golden Gals: Betty White and Hattie
It has always bothered me that aging in America is viewed as a downward spiralâ€¦ and a repulsive one at that! Itâ€™s no wonder that the younger set clamored for Betty White to appear on Saturday Night Live. Iâ€™m thrilled to be joining Betty to inspire the young, and the young at heart to take aging into their own hands and make it an exciting life-affirming adventure.
Here I am, in my 70â€™s and Betty in her 80â€™sâ€¦two older women who are showing the world that aging doesnâ€™t have to rob you of your youth and vitality. In Bettyâ€™s case, she is a bundle of energy, bubbling and enthusiasticâ€¦taking on new challenges with courage and joy. In my case sexuality got added to the mix. (â€œStir It Upâ€ as Bob Marley would say!)
It all started when I got divorced at 48, after being married for 25 years. I began dating again and before I knew it, younger men were pursuing me. That was well before the word â€œCougarâ€ was popular. It came as a shock to me that aging did not take away my sexualityâ€¦and that miracle inspired me to share my secrets. How great it feels to see young people smiling and actually enjoying the prospect of aging!
At first, I felt a bit weird about sleeping with young men. In my day that was called â€œcradle snatching.â€ With the passage of time, I became more accepting of the older woman/younger man phenomenon. This encouraged me to write my memoir, â€œSex and the Single Senior: A Cougarâ€™s Search for Love.â€
Out of the blue I got called to star in a series for The Learning Channel, â€œStrange Sex.â€ Naturally I was concerned that the title was a turn-off. But, it had quite the opposite effect. Within days I was stopped on the street, and my inbox was filled with letters as people shared that the show had inspired them not to fear aging. Now, following Betty Whiteâ€™s lead, older women (and men too) can confidently fulfill their desires and follow their hearts, no matter what society says.
Aging has taught me that true beauty emerges from withinâ€¦ a lesson that lightens my heart, energizes my body, and puts a smile on my face, with or without a few wrinkles!