Holly Hill Shoots From The Hip

I recently saw an article on CNN  and it was certainly refreshing to hear Holly Hill’s straightforward philosophy about her self-titled “negotiated infidelity.”  Putting herself out on the open market of the Internet as a SUGAR BABE, she parlayed her thousands of responses into a philosophy that she believes is the solution to sexual problems between couples.

Her rationale isn’t new. We’re all familiar with the well-publicized idea that monogamy is for swans, not for humans. Holly chooses to put a positive spin on a classic negative phenomenon, thereby making it seem acceptable. According to Hill, the secret lies in getting it out into the open. Unlike traditional infidelity with its accompanying betrayal, secrecy, cheating and guilt, Ms. Hill espouses open communication regarding sexual liaisons with others.

Though this openness works for Holly and her man…at least it has for two years…there’s trouble on the line when one, or both partners find it emotionally unacceptable. In her case, her boyfriend is allowed to have sex with other women, but not to sleep with them… “spooning”, as she calls it. This is somewhat like the “open marriage” of the 60’s, but with specific guidelines as to the nature of the extra-relationship sex.

Will giving a new name to sexual cheating make it ultimately acceptable, or even life enhancing? That depends completely on the couple. The prescription she offers that open communication and acceptance of sexual infidelity makes for happy couples may or may not work. But for some, her recipe might just do the trick.